Leah appears
In the previous post (The Guru and the Grandma) we established that we needed to add a daughter called Leah to the children of my great-great-grandfather Shmuilo Gronim Ilyutovich. We came to this conclusion on the basis of an initial suggestion from descendants of the Zizemsky family, which was confirmed by the strength of their DNA links to members of our Ilyutovich family.
Before Leah
Prior to this, we had no idea that such a person as Leah even existed; she appears to have been born, got married, and died in Russia, and probably spent her whole life in Lida, the Ilyutovich town, but she does not seem to appear anywhere in the Russian records that we have access to at the moment. See the Guru post again for a discussion of this.
Nevertheless, the discovery of Leah has major consequences for our Ilyutovich family. Here is Shmuilo Gronim’s family as we knew them, before we found Leah; this is from the 1903 Russian Revision List (like a Census) for their home town of Lida, which I came across a few years ago - see Let’s say I’m over the moon!
Shmuilo had died by 1903, but he is referred to in the List as father of the 5 sons. His son Shlioma (my great-grandfather) had also died by then, so I have included his wife Mikhlya, with her birth date; this suggests that Shlioma may well have been the eldest of the sons. Note that this list does not indicate who was the mother of Shmuilo's 5 sons. No-one in the household is designated as "wife of Shmuilo"; other women are included in the List, so perhaps she too had died by 1903.
Tracing Shmuilo
The first documentation we have for Shmuilo is from the 1834 Revision List, where he is 9 years old, so he was probably born in 1825.
The next mention is 16 years later, in 1850:
Shmuilo’s wife Leia is with him, and his father Iosel is Head of Household. As we have just seen, Leia does not appear in the List for 1903; this is the first time she has appeared in our research.
NB: the original Revision Lists showed the person's age, not their date of birth; I have used the one to calculate the other.
And by the 1858 Revision List, Shmuilo Gronim has a new wife:
- so Leia must have died at some point between the 1850 List and the 1858 one
- neither list shows any children, although at least some are shown for many other families
- however, later records show that Shmuilo had at least two children by 1858 - Shliomo Dovid (my g-g’father) was born c1851, and his brother Shimel (aka Simon Litowitz) was b c1856
- so these two could be children of either of the two wives, Leia or Tauba
- none of Shmuilo Gronim’s other children appear to have been born before 1858, so these later children are all probably children of Tauba
Family structure
The entries in these Lists give us the following structure for the family:
Shmuilo Gronim b 1825
- first wife: Leia (father’s name unknown) b 1826, d c1857
- possibly the first 2 sons: Shliomo Dovid b 1851, Shimel b 1856
- second wife: Tauba (father’s name Izrael) b 1832
- (possibly the first 2 sons: Shliomo Dovid b 1851, Shimel b 1856)
- + 3 later sons: Iudel Elia (aka Judel or Elias), Evel (aka Louis), Isser (aka Isaac)
NB: Tauba's children are shown in her colour, blue; we are not sure which of the two wives was the mother of the first two children, so I have shown them in yellow, the colour of their father Shmuilo.
What do we know about Leah?
We are seeking to insert the mysterious Leah into our Ilyutovich family, but we know precious little about her. The only half-way concrete date we have for her is that her son Jacob Zizemsky was born, according to the 1903 Revision List, in 1879; her American descendants suggest the earlier date of 1876, based on later American records. We do not know of any further children. Again according to the family, she died when Jacob was 6 years old, which gives a date around 1882-1885.
This suggests that she would probably have been born some time in the late 1850s to early 1860s. It was quite common for mothers to have their first births around the age of 20, so we would probably not be far off with a guess of around 1858.
This would fit neatly between the best guesses we have for the dates of birth of her brothers Shimel (1856) and Iudel Elia (1860). So is she blue, or is she yellow?
Where does Leah fit in?
Well, first things first. This is an Ashkenazi Jewish family, so children cannot be given the same name as their parents. This implies that baby Leah cannot be the daughter of Shmuilo Gronim’s first wife Leia; she must be the child of his second wife Tauba.
In itself, this conclusion does not resolve the question of which of the two women is the mother of the first two sons, Shlioma Dovid and Shimel. However, in the wider pattern of DNA matches, there is a suggestion that these two children share one mother, and the other 4 share a different one. This hinges on a cluster of matches around descendants of Shlioma Dovid and Shimel, that are not shared to a similar strength by descendants of the other 4 children; I will go into more detail on this in a later post.
So my revised family structure now looks like this:
Leah joins the Blues, as a daughter of Tauba, and the first 2 boys become Pinks, as sons of Leia. I have added in the names of Tauba's parents at this stage, because they now become relevant to the story.
The naming of Leah
The Ashkenazi tradition is to name a child after a recently deceased ancestor, such as a grandparent or great-grandparent. For boys, it’s usually the father who has first call; for girls, it’s usually the mother, in this case, Tauba. For both Shmuilo Gronim and Tauba, it looks as though Leah is their first female child, so you would expect her to be named after the most recently deceased ancestor, most likely on Tauba’s side - ie her mother, or if she is still living, her maternal grandmother.
We have a name for Tauba’s mother: on Tauba’s death certificate (New York, 1916), her mother is named as Rose. So baby Leah is not named after her. We do not know the name of Tauba’s maternal grandmother.
Shmuilo Gronim’s mother was called Ester, so it’s not her either. We do not know the name of his maternal grandmother. His paternal grandmother was called Reizel (Rose). No sign of a Leah, as yet.
Is there a Leah in the house?
We do have a Leia in the family, of course. What if the name-donor for Tauba's baby girl were to be Shmuilo Gronim’s recently deceased first wife, Leia?
It might seem strange for a woman to name her first daughter in honour of her husband’s first wife, but there is another Ashkenazi tradition that could maybe explain how this could have happened. For a long time it was part of the marriage contract for the bride’s family to undertake to provide a second wife for the groom if the first wife were to die. There could also be a contract the other way round - the groom would have to confirm whether he had any eligible brothers who could be called upon to step in should he not survive. Or it might even be reciprocal - the family of whichever deceased spouse would undertake to provide a replacement.
This arrangement may have been formal or informal, and I have seen it happen several times in my own ancestral families. It was a sort of marriage insurance policy, which was intended to maintain the home for the children. And there was a need for it - people did tend to die younger in those days. In particular, it was not uncommon for mothers to die in childbirth, or soon after. This may be what happened to Leia; we don't know and we are unlikely to ever find out.
Sisters?
So maybe the family was following this tradition, and Tauba b 1832 is the younger sister of Shmuilo Gronim’s first wife Leia, b 1826? And the naming of baby Leah would thus be on behalf of both parents, in honour of Tauba’s recently deceased sister Leia, who was also Shmuilo Gronim’s first wife.
If this is what is happening here, it mirrors exactly a case I came across a few years ago. It happened at exactly the same time - 1850s - but in a different country, and involved Jews from a different community. Isaac Frankenstein was born in 1826 in Poland. He came to England in the late 1840s, stayed with the Barnett family in Portsea, and married one of the daughters, Kate, in Brighton in 1853. 10 weeks later Isaac set off for the USA with his new wife Kate and her younger sister Leah (there’s that name again).
They stayed in New York at first, but within the year Kate had died of a fever, and soon afterwards Isaac married Leah. A few months later their first child was born, a baby girl. They called her Kate. You can read more of their story in Who was Isaac Frankenstein?
A revised Tree
If this is the case, and Tauba and Leia are indeed sisters, our revised Ilyutovich Tree would now look like this:
Leah would be half-sister to my great-grandfather Shlioma Dovid, or to put it another way, she'd be my own great-great-aunt. She would also be my grandmother's aunt. Granny (Zlata Ilyutovich) was born in 1882; we think Leah died by about 1886, so she may possibly have seen her niece as a young child.









